The first thought that comes to my mind when I think about September is the Labor Day Weekend. If you are anything like me, I am sure you are trying to soak up the last few minutes of the summer months during this weekend. Many of you may spend these days at the beach. If you do, I wish you would take me with you! J Others of you may find some time to spend with your family, friends and the of course the grill. With that being said, no matter how you spend your Labor Day Weekend, all of us have to admit that summer is finally coming to a close. As a working student, the one thing that comes to my mind once I admit that truth is the fact that a regular routine is starting back up in my life. I am sure you as parents and grandparents are thinking the same thing. Furthermore, as this regular routine begins, stress levels begin to go up as well. When all of this happens, many of us (including myself) forget to do one of the most important things we could do in this life. That one thing is holding our tongues from speaking in anger. When tensions are high, we forget to show love by what we say to the ones who offend us, who break our routines, and the ones who can get on our last nerve (At this moment, I am sure many of you are thinking of that person J)! For some of you reading this, the people who do this the most to you are your children and grandchildren. They are the ones around you the most, so why wouldn’t they? Furthermore, We are human, and sometimes the people we love the most are the ones we show the least amount of love to when comes to what we say. So, with all of that said, this month I want to give you a challenge. As you and your children/grandchildren are beginning a new school year and routine during the month of September, let’s take the time to learn how to guard our tongues during the times that we don’t want to guard them at all!
Now, with that challenge in mind, the question remains: how can you learn to control your tongue during those stressful times this year? This question can have many different answers, and I am sure many of you have already thought of some. But one answer that you may not have thought of is Proverbs 19:11 and Proverbs 29:11. These verses were definitely not at the top of my list until about a month ago, but they are some of the most powerful references when it comes to learning how to control your tongue in stressful situations. Proverbs 19:11 says this, “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 29:11 goes on to compliment the thought in Proverbs 19:11 by stating this, “A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.”
The first thing you need to do is commit these verses to memory. Once you have done that, take the time to mediate on them. As you do that, you will begin to see the importance of holding your tongue and calming your anger in stressful situations, which may or may not be caused by our children J. I am sure that this school year will provide several opportunities where your blood pressure rises. In fact, it is possible that these situations will happen this week! Whether it is your children, co-worker or spouse, I would encourage you to think about how important is to overlook an offense or hold back your angry spirit from speaking. According to Scripture, It is unwise and foolish to do otherwise.
Let me give you an illustration. Not holding one’s tongue is similar to someone throwing a grenade. Once someone pulls the pin and throws the grenade, there is no way to get it back before it explodes. This of course will result in a destructive outcome. In the same, the tongue has the same kind of outcome. Once you speak angry and hurtful words, there is no way of getting them back. Therefore, it is better if they were never spoken in the first place. It is simply common sense to quietly hold back your angry words. After all, what are you accomplishing by giving full vent to your spirit? The Bible says you are simply showing the world that you are foolish. I pray this month you as parents and grandparents will decide in your hearts to master the art of holding your tongue. It is easier said then done; however, when you and I learn to do this, it will do wonders in our spiritual growth. Furthermore, it will be model for our children and grandchildren with regard to showing love by way of their tongue. As always, thank you for taking the time to read this article. It is a privilege and honor to serve at ROSBC. I hope and pray that you and your family have a wonderful month of September.
For His Glory Alone, Nick Decker